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To me, burnout always seemed a likely side effect of getting ahead. By sheer determination, I thought I could “win” against it or at the very least coexist with it.

I see now how bad it was. I was a workaholic — checking emails in bed before my eyes had fully opened, thinking first of work before my family and my health. I was totally one-dimensional.

With that workaholism came a bunch of other -aholisms: I was a shopaholic, my saving and spending habits totally flippant. I was a foodaholic, with terrible workout and eating patterns — yoyoing from intense structure to total binges. And I was likely an alcoholic, having no healthy outlet for my stress.

I witnessed my burnout and convinced myself I could live with it; it was a necessary side effect to a stable job with status. See, my burnout wasn’t “real.” That was Hillary Clinton and Arianna Huffington passing out, their bodies forcing a timeout. To me, those were extreme cases of extremely successful people.

I was delusional.

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Anne Omland is a leadership and career development expert. As a VP of a Fortune 500 company she uses her insider knowledge to help ambitious women define their leadership style and use it to create meaningful success. 

 

So Kim Kardashian’s ass didn’t break the internet. Great because I have work to do, tweets to tweet, instagrams to like and I guess, work to do. To me, the pictures aren’t bothersome; her butt made her famous (well, that and a sex tape). What’s bothersome is the reaction of other women to her choice. How can she do that? She’s a mother! To that I ask: What bearing does her motherhood have on her right to sexualize herself?

We’re entitled to our opinions, absolutely, but when we get into public forums and shame each other, we perpetuate the cat-fight stereotype which sets our gender back. Instead we ought to accept that we’re entitled to make lifestyle choices that feel right to us and we should honor those in others and ourselves.

For me the issue isn’t her ass, it’s the selectivity of feminism.

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I was visiting my friend Sara last week and was having a good laugh at her current marital tiff. Nothing comforts me more than knowing I’m not alone in those. As I listened to her explain it, I couldn’t help but think of all the times I’ve done what she did.

She asked her husband’s advice and then didn’t take it. I’ve witnessed this before; she’ll ask which shoes he likes and then pick the DeathtoStock_Creative Community8opposite. But this time she asked his advice about taking on a leadership position at work and then did what she wanted to do anyway which was turn it down. He was insulted which is why she invited me over (“he can’t be mad directly at me if you’re here”…the perfect invite :) )

I’ve been there before, I told her. And it’s true, I often do this. The reason I give myself that it’s ok is something my dad says, “in the asking you often find your answer.” (Tweet this!)

Great for me. Annoying to whomever’s advice I’m after. Do you do the same, ask advice and then ignore it?

Sure it’s annoying when someone selects a pair of shoes, a restaurant or movie and you choose another. The difficulty is when the decision is more weighty.

How do you know when to heed advice and when to follow your gut?

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Did you know one of the biggest regrets of successful women is sacrificing too much for success? Imagine reaching your peak and looking back and wishing you’d done things differently…

These days we’re overworked and overwhelmed. We work so hard for success and end up just…working.

We see it in our role models.

Hillary Clinton is an inspiration to millions. So is Arianna Huffington. Yet both women pushed themselves to the point of collapse and fainted from exhaustion before they realized they were working too hard. Their bodies literally had to shut down for them to get the message.

We see it in our coworkers.

I have a client who’s a partner at an Amlaw 100 firm. She’s like a character from Scandal: a super-intelligent, ball-crusher attorney who can hold her own in a male-dominated workplace by pretty much being one of the guys. She’s sharp and put together…at least on the outside. Until she had a heart attack (!) at 37. She came to me because she realized that years of “making it work” wasn’t really working at all. [click to continue…]

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How This Common Trap Can Stunt Your Career

When I got my first promotion I felt it was due. I was confident and ready for it; I’d been doing the job for months unofficially. Granted, I was only managing 2 other people…hey, you gotta start somewhere!

Sadly, that’s where the confident promotion cycle ended.

Just a couple years later, I was given earned my next promotion. It had me managing several people including the person who hired me (awk-ward!), overseeing a side of our business I knew little about, and put me in a class with people who’d been with the company for years.

My first thought: I’m in over my head.

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When I was little, every Spring my mom would swap out her closets, moving her warm weather clothes to her cedar storage closet and those bulky sweaters, leggings and wraps to the other.

It makes me nostalgic to think about how I used to sit in the room with her while she considered which clothes would make the move, holding them up and tilting her head as she inspected them. The smell of cedar every time she brushed past me.

After the inventory, she’d donate some to Goodwill and would often then need to set out shopping. Last year, however, she didn’t go through her closets to know what she already had and came back from her shopping trip with almost identical clothes to those she already owned. Whoops! Have you ever done that?

Here are 2 things to learn from this ritual:

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